Feeling happy with life, relationships, health, etc. is easy when things are going well. 

But dealing with them when times are difficult, when we feel scared, when love has become painful, when we’ve become numb, or emotions have become volatile - especially when we've been there for years and pent-up frustration, disappointment and resentment grow — that's when it’s confusing to know what to do next.

I understand these feelings - I truly do.

I'd been living with those difficult feelings, especially around conversations and relationships, pretty much all of my early life. We could probably trade some heartfelt stories.

Unfortunately, I spent the first 30 years of my life perpetuating the problems I was trying to avoid. It was like a really frustrating self-fulfilling prophecy, where I continued to attract what I feared most and didn't want, in my own relationships and life. And I didn't know how to fix those mistakes.

In short, because I didn’t have the skills to create and enjoy healthy happy authentic connection, I defaulted to what I did know…finding my safety and security in work and constantly 'doing'. But, no matter how hard or how much I worked, I couldn’t find ways to meet my deeper emotional needs, no matter how 'successful' I became on the outside.

Add to all that a 30 yr old's biological clock tick, tick, ticking away! Let's just say I know those feelings of

ongoing anxiety because you know time - and your life - are slowly passing by. Something's got to give.

I've witnessed and experienced the pain you feel when you are surrounded by friends or family yet feeling lonely and like you're doing everything on your own, to the point where life feels somewhat life-less. Those are the kinds of frustration that make you want to run away...just to think, for a while!

I don't speak about this topic because it’s been easy. I am passionate about it because I have lived it. I've felt despair, which made me vulnerable. I wish someone had told me that happiness is possible - without walking away from the people and things I'd created and loved - and pointed to the right direction. 

Because “having it all” means nothing without authentic connection & happiness. This is my mission!